While it’s meant to be the oldest known profession, many of us assume it’s mainly men who are at the paying end of prostitution. Here, two women share their reasons for shelling out for sexual services.
“I’ve spent $40,000 on escorts”
Anna*, 42 is a divorced business manager from Sydney, NSW.
I was as nerve-racking as going on any first date. Fidgeting with the dress I’d painstakingly chosen for the evening, I walked into the restaurant wondering what I’d gotten myself into. I clocked him straightaway. Dressed in a suit, he was mid 30s, with dark hair and glasses. Not my type at all. I began to regret the $2000 I’d forked out for the evening.
“Recently divorced after a 15-year marriage, I’d spent months looking for a man I clicked with. But I’d begun to feel disillusioned. I wasn’t simply looking for a relationship; after a deeply unsatisfying marriage I wanted to explore my sexuality, too. It seems extreme, but I wondered if turning to a professional might be the answer.
Sex educator Karen B. K. Chan of Fluid Exchange has written a 3-part essay on wooing the clitoris. Click on the links below to read this beautifully written, informative and supportive piece…
13 Ways to Woo a Clitoris Part 1
“Every clit is different everyday. You can’t know how it’s gonna feel until you feel it. People with penises put them everywhere, for serious arousal or just for fun. We oughta learn from them.”
13 Ways to Woo a Clitoris Part 2
“The clitoris has agency. It doesn’t just get stuff done to it, it does stuff.”
13 Ways to Woo a Clitoris Part 3
“The clitoris is not a button it’s an iceberg.”
Article from Lesbilicious
Date posted: July 26 2010
Friday night. You’re lusty and lonely so you pick up your phone, scroll past the takeaways and order an escort. A couple of hours later a woman comes to your house. You pay her, have sex with her, and she leaves.
No gay bars, no pick up lines, no undisclosed expectations – just sex, for cash. As a lesbian or bisexual woman would you do this? Could you do this? Would you pay another woman to have sex with you?
Prostitution is, famously, the oldest occupation. But whether it’s been women or men selling a good time, it’s invariably been men who were buying – they, after all, were historically the only ones with the money and power to do so.
I just was randomly googling variations of “women searching escorts” and discovered that Slixa.com has a section entitled “lesbian escorts”. Although I’m sure many of these women aren’t strictly lesbian, it’s fabulous to see another site gearing itself towards women who are potentially or actively looking for a paid erotic experience! And there are many of them!
Oh and this is what they say about their site… I like it!
The Slixa Revolution
Slixa is radically different from other adult entertainer directory style sites. Find what you’re looking for quickly and easily with no outside ads that diminish the REAL sexy women on the site. You’ll find large photos you can actually see and navigation that just plain makes sense. We never try to upsell you – free is free!
Slixa is classy, sophisticated, easy to use, and completely free. We think it’s revolutionary, and long overdue.
(it’s a little pop-anthropology)
When this campaign began I knew resolutely that I would use the word ‘Cunt’. It wasn’t so much a decision but a feeling like I had no choice. There simply wasn’t any other word that felt ‘right’. I’ve always liked the word ‘Cunt’ – coming from Ireland, we say it a lot more often that it’s said in the UK. When I moved here, I began to notice the shocked reaction that I got when I casually said ‘Cunt’ . It was mainly from women.
Invisibility and Visibility of Queer Women and Lesbians In the Sex Work Industry Between 1970 and 1990
by leigh vandebogart
This paper focuses on the ways in which lesbians and queer women in the sex work industry were stigmatized in society and the struggle to gain visibility in a society that rendered them invisible. There has been a largely invisible history of lesbians and queer women involved in sex work. The era between 1970 and 1990 was laden with the second wave of feminism, sexual consciousness and sexual revolution, three factors still affecting society. I argue that the existence of lesbian and queer women as sex workers during this time was a difficult one. Lesbians and queer women involved in sex work were marginalized, faced with stigmas and issues of visibility and invisibility, both within and outside of queer and lesbian communities. Through focusing on narratives of queer women and lesbian sex workers, I include the ways in which lesbians and queer women within the sex work industry were oppressed and marginalized within their own communities. I also show not all communities were so oppressive, and some of the women involved in sex work found comfort and solidarity within the queer community.
by Rick MortonWednesday 30 March 2011
When I worked in women’s magazines, stories about lesbians or bi-curiosity were guaranteed to boost sales. And that was back in the 90s and naughties. So it’s kind of surprising to see it’s taken this long for someone to turn that curiosity into money.
A new service has recently launched for women to pay to sleep with other women. To fulfil a fantasy, scratch an itch, push a boundary, indulge a whim.